• Newt Gingrich Isn’t My Role Model for Open Marriage

    Wednesday, April 1st, 2015

    When I Googled “Open Marriage” last week, guess who came up? Newt. That’s right, Newt Gingrich and his famous request to “open his marriage” while in the midst of an affair. As a person who practices ethical non-monogamy, I was offended. It’s like Googling “famous German doctors” and getting…

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  • 50 Shades of Boredom

    Wednesday, March 11th, 2015

    I am really happy that a woman writer wrote a sexy book—and that throngs of women are raucously declaring their libido at the movies. I am happy and yet—I have to say it—as a sex positive feminist I feel let down by this failed attempt at great erotica. “Fifty…

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  • COMPERSION : A Polyamorous Principle That Can Strengthen Any Relationship

    Tuesday, March 10th, 2015

    I vividly remember the first time I felt it. My husband and I were in the backyard, lazing in the sun, sipping drinks as he described the previous evening. As he talked, his face looked brighter, his eyes clearer. In a flash of déjà vu, I remembered…

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  • Lying to Your Spouse – Will it Make Your Marriage Better?

    Wednesday, February 11th, 2015

    Recently I read an article in the NY Times “Good Lovers Lie” by Clancy Martin.
    In it Martin observed, “Research shows that on average in an ordinary conversation, people lie two to three times every 10 minutes.” He surmises, “If you want to have love in your…

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  • Reciprocity in Open Marriage

    Tuesday, January 13th, 2015

    Sometimes when I’m writing blogs about open marriage, I think about people that an open relationship might not be right for. And situations where opening your marriage would not be a good thing to do. One of the most important elements in any relationship is reciprocity. I have had…

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  • Open Marriage, Relationship Artistry and a Daily Practice of Attachment

    Saturday, December 20th, 2014

    Can there be a state in which you are investing energy in your relationship without it being work? I hear people talking about working hard in their marriage and it just doesn’t seem like fun. What if you invest energy from a place of excitement and creating together? What…

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  • Open Marriage and Relationship Artistry

    Friday, December 19th, 2014

    If you are going to have any openness in your marriage or relationship, one of the most important things is to make sure you and your partner are solidly connected. Being deeply bonded can allow for more freedom and possibility in your relationship. If you are going to have…

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  • The Polyamory Handbook for Monogamous People: Tip One Invest in your relationship

    Sunday, October 19th, 2014

    This morning I was reading an article in Scientific American called “The New Sexual Revolution: Polyamory May Be Good for You.” It outlines “what swinging couples and committed polyamorists can teach monogamists about love”.

    According to Bjarne Holmes, a psychologist at Champlain College in Vermont. Polyamorous couples “…are potentially…

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  • Polyamory and Defining Love

    Sunday, September 28th, 2014

    When I was first starting a spiritual practice, my teacher asked me to define love. I pondered this for a few days and then said that “Love grows me, it is like what soil, rain, and sunshine is to a plant. It is the force that helps me blossom.”…

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  • Chosen Family and Polyamory: The Newfangled Brady Bunch

    Thursday, September 25th, 2014

    Today I was compelled to look up the definition of “Family”.

    A group of people who are related to each other
    A person’s children
    A group of related people including people who lived in the past

    If we go by Webster’s definition it’s all about your gene pool. But when I think of…

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