• Legalized “Cheating” in Marriage

    Wednesday, July 22nd, 2015

    Lately I’ve been reading about Middle Eastern women enduring abominable backlashes from ISIS: Women held as prisoners; girls (as young as 9) repeatedly raped; women stoned by their families for committing adultery (while the men involved are absolved of any responsibility). These acts are horrifying. But is the core…

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  • How Same-Sex Marriage Could Improve Straight Marriage

    Wednesday, July 8th, 2015

    SCOTUS’s decision to make same-sex marriage a constitutional right in all states is a landmark victory for the gay rights movement. But could it also be a victory for the institution of marriage in and of itself? Justice Ruth Ginsberg repeatedly argued that gay marriage is part of a…

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  • How to Have a More Sex Positive Marriage or Relationship

    Thursday, June 25th, 2015

    Sexual energy is volatile, so is food, so is alcohol and drugs. We can get out of control in any of these areas. In fact anything can become a compulsion even cleaning your desk or flossing your teeth. We live in a Nancy Reagan “just say no!” puritanically based…

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  • Is it Possible to Cheat in a Polyamorous Relationship or Open Marriage?

    Thursday, June 18th, 2015

    It happened to a good friend of mine. She called me up one night very upset. She and her husband had been polyamorous for over 10 years. And she found out that he was “cheating” on her. This brings up a really good question. Is it possible to cheat…

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  • Expanded Love Template Questionnaire

    Tuesday, June 9th, 2015

    Making a “Love Template” is an easy way to create more connection and harmony in your relationship. Here’s my article on the subject: how-to-create-marital-bliss-make-a-love-template . A Love Template is a blue print describing the specific actions that makes your partner feel happy and adored…

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  • How to Create Marital Bliss: Make a Love Template

    Thursday, June 4th, 2015

    If you have just ten minutes and you want to create some relationship bliss –make a love template on your spouse. What is a love template? It’s a blue print describing the specific actions that makes your partner feel happy and adored by you. The next time you and…

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  • Two Steps to Create a Successful Poly Relationship or Open Marriage

    Friday, May 15th, 2015

    Recently I got an email from an anxious gentleman. He had read one of my articles on compersion and given his wife a “golden ticket” when she was away on business. They had a hot searing late night conversation after she’d arrived at the hotel. The whole idea of…

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  • Fostering Compersion Part 3: The Polyamorous Principle that Can Strengthen Any Relationship

    Friday, May 1st, 2015

    I was at a party recently where a poly pal was complaining about “the myth of the almighty compersion”—the phenomenon of “being happy when your lover is getting pleasure from someone other than you.” He told me his new girlfriend of just four months had started dating another fellow…

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  • 6 Varieties of Ethical Non-Monogamy

    Wednesday, April 29th, 2015

    I am all for more language to describe love and the varieties of innovative ways to do relationships and chosen family. “Ethical non-monogamy” is a great term that encompasses all the ways that you can consciously, with agreement and consent from all involved, explore love and sex with multiple…

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  • Compersion: When My husband’s Attraction to Other Women Turns Me On

    Thursday, April 2nd, 2015

    As a person who is in a marriage that is sometimes open and sometimes closed, I feel varying degrees of compersion: the revered polyamorous principle describing the ability to derive pleasure (instead of jealousy) out of the fact that your beloved is getting it on with someone else. There…

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