I am doing a bit of follow up on my blog & video, “True confessions: What it really feels like to cash in the Golden Ticket.” Several people reached out to me, extremely concerned about my feelings and treating the golden ticket episode as if it had been a…

Recently, I gave my love a “golden ticket” to go play. It had expiration dates, clear clauses outlining agreements and voids where prohibited in it. We were separated for a week and he used his ticket. I did not have an opportunity during my time away to use my…

Labels can give us quick information and orient us as to what someone’s sexual lifestyle is but they also can limit freedom and fluidity. While I recognize that it is necessary to have titles for different states, I prefer to think of myself as “sexual”. If people want to…

If you are a newbie to polyamory and want to experiment with open relationships —here are some thoughts. First of all, good for you that you are thinking out of the box, it is liberating to set up your relationships with unique agreements and your own personal doctrine. You…

Unfortunately there is still prejudice against people whose lifestyle includes polyamory. I learned this only too well when my partner tried to move into my home with his two children, when he told his ex-wife, a huge custody battle ensued.

The basic case against us went like this; here is…

I think there is sometimes an over emphasis on the sexual aspects of polyamory. In my situation I still have a deep love for Hank (my former husband of twenty five years). Hank is my great love and continues to be my great love even though we are no…

In this blog I am mostly talking about the 5 steps to open your marriage, but in some ways the terms polyamory and open marriage are interchangeable. The definition I use for polyamory involves more community building, love and long terms bonds. Open marriage has vast meanings depending on…

Here are my thoughts on four principles to enhance relationships:

1) Create your own relationship doctrine

To me poly is innovation in relationship. It is going beyond a set of rules or a prescribed marriage doctrine to discover what works for you. Agreements evolve from your unique relationship vision. It saddens…