• The Polyamory Handbook for Monogamous People: Tip 2 Keep having sex

    Sunday, September 21st, 2014

    Sometimes polyamorous people are on display and /or criticized because it’s clear that sex is a high priority for them. But for all you monogamous people check this out—according to several studies sex improves your marriage and even your health. And not having sex with your spouse puts you…

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  • The Polyamorous Guidelines for Monogamous People: Tip 3 Have the Same values

    Tuesday, September 16th, 2014

    This is something I’ve been talking about in my videos and now I have the research to back up my point. According to David Popenoe, Ph.D., from The National Marriage Project, Rutgers University

    “People who are similar in their values, backgrounds and life goals are more likely to have…

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  • Golden Tickets Part Two: More True confessions of a polyamorous gal

    Monday, September 15th, 2014

    I am doing a bit of follow up on my blog & video, “True confessions: What it really feels like to cash in the Golden Ticket.” Several people reached out to me, extremely concerned about my feelings and treating the golden ticket episode as if it had been a…

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  • Being in a Poly Relationship – True Confessions from Cashing in the Golden Ticket

    Friday, August 29th, 2014

    Recently, I gave my love a “golden ticket” to go play. It had expiration dates, clear clauses outlining agreements and voids where prohibited in it. We were separated for a week and he used his ticket. I did not have an opportunity during my time away to use my…

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  • The Rigidly Hip of Polyamory: Can Labels Really Define Who We Are?

    Friday, August 22nd, 2014

    Labels can give us quick information and orient us as to what someone’s sexual lifestyle is but they also can limit freedom and fluidity. While I recognize that it is necessary to have titles for different states, I prefer to think of myself as “sexual”. If people want to…

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  • New to Polyamory? Advice for the Curious and The Committed

    Wednesday, August 6th, 2014

    If you are a newbie to polyamory and want to experiment with open relationships —here are some thoughts. First of all, good for you that you are thinking out of the box, it is liberating to set up your relationships with unique agreements and your own personal doctrine. You…

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  • Prude and Prejudice: The Impact of Polyamory on Societal Evolution

    Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014

    Unfortunately there is still prejudice against people whose lifestyle includes polyamory. I learned this only too well when my partner tried to move into my home with his two children, when he told his ex-wife, a huge custody battle ensued.

    The basic case against us went like this; here is…

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  • Emotional Polyamory, Divorce and Conscious Uncoupling

    Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

    I think there is sometimes an over emphasis on the sexual aspects of polyamory. In my situation I still have a deep love for Hank (my former husband of twenty five years). Hank is my great love and continues to be my great love even though we are no…

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  • 5 Steps to Open your Marriage and Create a Polyamorous Relationship

    Saturday, July 5th, 2014

    In this blog I am mostly talking about the 5 steps to open your marriage, but in some ways the terms polyamory and open marriage are interchangeable. The definition I use for polyamory involves more community building, love and long terms bonds. Open marriage has vast meanings depending on…

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  • 4 Principles of Healthy Polyamorous Relationships

    Wednesday, June 18th, 2014

    Here are my thoughts on four principles to enhance relationships:

    1) Create your own relationship doctrine

    To me poly is innovation in relationship. It is going beyond a set of rules or a prescribed marriage doctrine to discover what works for you. Agreements evolve from your unique relationship vision. It saddens…

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