This month’s new word is a phenomenon I’ve often discussed with polyamorous friends: One of you has a new love, relationship, or flirtation. Your other partner(s) feel jealous–and you are completely mystified. You have forgotten what it is like to have your beloved suddenly starry-eyed for someone else. My…

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My teenage daughter was seeing a movie one night with a group of friends. When I called her to coordinate her Uber ride home, she didn’t answer. Finally, two hours later, she answered her phone and told me…

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A long-term relationship or marriage is a blessing—but what do you do when the doldrums set in? How can you see your spouse with fresh eyes? Appreciating everything you have together and awakening what may have gone dormant

My mother used to say, “In a world that is largely focused on male pleasure — the female orgasm is an act of revolution.”

Her words have even more resonance in today’s on-demand culture where porn (largely produced, directed, and watched by men) is sometimes the only sex education young…

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Unlike a lot of mothers in my suburban community I have no problem talking to my kids about sex. In fact, I’m very comfortable talking honestly, openly, and non-judgmentally about it.

I was raised by a stylish diva Mom of the “Mad Men” era, twice divorced, slightly embittered but unequivocal…

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Threesome. Ménage a trois. Orgy. Whatever you call it, the mystique and allure of the concept has shrouded from the majority of the population the practical, less-than-sexy pitfalls of coordinating and executing this kind of experience. Engaging in group sex has a unique appeal to and distinct difficulties for…

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Unlike a lot of mothers in my suburban community I have no problem talking to my kids about sex. In fact, I’m very comfortable talking honestly, openly, and nonjudgmentally about it.

I was raised by a stylish diva Mom of the “Mad Men” era, twice divorced, slightly embittered but unequivocal…

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You’re ready to make a change in your relationship. You love your spouse, but you’re also in love with someone else. Or your spouse is your best friend but has never been your match sexually. Maybe an illness precludes your spouse from ever having sex again. Or you married…

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For some people, perhaps, open marriage is a concession. I think there are marriages that have come to conscious agreements post-cheating. The Clintons come to mind. They have possibly made a new vision of their marriage. There is love but maybe also an obligation, as in, “You owe me…

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I vividly remember the first time I felt it. My husband and I were in the backyard, lazing in the sun, sipping drinks as he described the previous evening. As he talked, his face looked brighter, his eyes clearer. In a flash of déjà vu, I remembered that same…

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