I vividly remember the first time I felt it. My husband and I were in the backyard, lazing in the sun, sipping drinks as he described the previous evening. As he talked, his face looked brighter, his eyes clearer. In a flash of déjà vu, I remembered…

Recently I read an article in the NY Times “Good Lovers Lie” by Clancy Martin. http://www.nytimes.com/2015/02/08/opinion/sunday/good-lovers-lie.html
In it Martin observed, “Research shows that on average in an ordinary conversation, people lie two to three times every 10 minutes.” He surmises, “If you want to have love in…

Sometimes when I’m writing blogs about open marriage, I think about people that an open relationship might not be right for. And situations where opening your marriage would not be a good thing to do. One of the most important elements in any relationship is reciprocity. I have had…

Can there be a state in which you are investing energy in your relationship without it being work? I hear people talking about working hard in their marriage and it just doesn’t seem like fun. What if you invest energy from a place of excitement and creating together? What…

If you are going to have any openness in your marriage or relationship, one of the most important things is to make sure you and your partner are solidly connected. Being deeply bonded can allow for more freedom and possibility in your relationship. If you are going to have…

This morning I was reading an article in Scientific American called “The New Sexual Revolution: Polyamory May Be Good for You.” It outlines “what swinging couples and committed polyamorists can teach monogamists about love”. http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/new-sexual-revolution-polyamory/

According to Bjarne Holmes, a psychologist at Champlain College in Vermont. Polyamorous couples “…are potentially…

When I was first starting a spiritual practice, my teacher asked me to define love. I pondered this for a few days and then said that “Love grows me, it is like what soil, rain, and sunshine is to a plant. It is the force that helps me blossom.”…

Today I was compelled to look up the definition of “Family”.

A group of people who are related to each other
A person’s children
A group of related people including people who lived in the past

If we go by Webster’s definition it’s all about your gene pool. But when I think of…